I recently lost one of my good childhood friends suddenly and completely unexpectedly. She was full of life one day and gone the next.
I’ve lost close family members before, but this was the first friend who has ever passed and I had no idea how to respond.
You aren’t supposed to say goodbye to someone at 27. That is not how it is supposed to work.
There are so many things that I have learned and ways my life has changed because of her life and death.
I want to share a few with you in the hopes that you might impacted by her life as well.
First, I have learned that I do not take enough time to be thankful.
It is too easy to forget when life gets hard or is not all that I want it to be, that I have so much to truly be thankful for.
And that all of it comes from a God who loves me so much and loves to give good gifts to His children. He knows me. He loves me and He is worthy of my trust, praise, and thanksgiving.
I will choose to be thankful rather than dwelling on all that I don’t have. I will choose to say thank you instead of complaining or criticizing. We have enough critics in the world, we need more thanksgiving and joy.
Second, her death has taught me to not take any memory for granted.
We are not promised time.
I don’t want to waste any of the time that I’m given.
I’m choosing less time online and more time with the people I love. I want to make memories and enjoy every moment I can.
It is too easy to be busy and let moments pass us by, it’s not worth it.
I choose to enjoy today.
Finally I’ve learned that God, my God is near.
Pain is hard. Life doesn’t always make sense.
I don’t know why my sweet friend died so young. I don’t know that I will ever know, but despite the sorrow, sadness, and pain, God has granted me peace.
He was with her the whole time. She wasn’t alone.
He promised that He would never leave us or forsake us.
I know that He was carrying her the whole way, just as I know she is with Him now.
Even though the loss of her life is unimaginable for us, I know that just as He was with her granting her eternal peace and life; He is with us, comforting us in our grief and sorrow.
He will not leave. He will redeem all things, even this.
Thank you for being my friend.
I am changed because of you. I will live each day looking for the good, choosing thanksgiving over criticism.
I will choose to say yes to memories and spending real time with those I love.
And I will cling a little tighter to the God that I love, knowing that you’re worshiping Him face to face.
I look forward to the day that I will see you again.